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Summary

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• An introduction to our expectations and community guidelines for Kink Between the Lines (KBtL)
• Expectations for celebrating differences, including language differences.
• Using conscious language, seeking active consent, and owning your impact.
• Important policies about screenshots and intellectual property

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Overview

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We absolutely get it: Our community is a beautifully, messy mosaic of people, play styles, and lived experiences. Sometimes that can get tough and sometimes the topics at Kink Between the Lines can be heavy. But we know you have it in you to show up in the best way you know how. Please show up with curiosity, compassion, and respect. This page is a lovingly firm guide to not being that person at this event. 💖

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People are different from you. Celebrate it.

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Not everyone thinks, talks, moves, or plays the way you do: and that’s not a bug, it’s a feature.

If you catch yourself judging, mocking, or dismissing someone’s identity, gear, communication style, or energy… pause. Breathe. Redirect. This space is built for authenticity, not assimilation.

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Use conscious language. Ask (respectful) questions. Learn. Grow.

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Don’t make assumptions about anyone’s gender, roles, bodies, kinks, or relationships. When in doubt: ask kindly, listen deeply, and honor the answer you’re given.

That includes names, pronouns, and not using humor at the expense of marginalized folks. (You're funnier when you punch up anyway.)

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English is not everyone’s first or only language. Embrace it.

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We’re international. We’re neurodiverse. We’re multilingual. Some of us spell colo(u)r with a u and some don’t.

Listen with presence and respect. Don’t interrupt, “correct,” or condescend. Communication is a collaborative act so be generous with your patience and curiosity. Embrace accents, speech patterns, and English as a second language as community assets.

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Consent is more than “yes” or “no.” It’s active, not passive.

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Consent is tone, timing, clarity, care, and respect. If someone offers a boundary, thank them because they’re trusting you to hold it.

If you’re unsure, ask. If someone checks in with you, receive it with grace. Consent isn’t just sexy, it’s sacred.

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Own your impact.

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